I diet and watch what I eat, I work out 5-6 days a week, 5-6 freakin' days, I'd say that's a decent work out effort wouldn't you? But in the last 2.5 months I have been asked 6 times "if I am expecting" or "when I am due" at the gym. Really people, 6 times? I haven't been asked 6 times in 11 years, even when I was pregnant! :) And usually when I am I asked, I try to find some sort of humor in the situation and just laugh it off, but when the question sparks 10 people in the locker room to immediately glare at my stomach... it's just too awkward! I mean what do you say? :)Do you try to make the person asking feel better by making up some sort of excuse, because by now they are clearly embarrassed? But why should I do that, they are the ass who asked you in the first place. :) Do you just ignore the comment all together like you didn't hear it? Do you just laugh and say no and walk away? After pondering the issue a bit, I truly believe the appropriate response is "F-Off" or at least in this case when I had just completed bodypump and ran 2.5 miles, but even I am not that brave. So, I am just at a loss... how do you answer that question WHEN YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT?
And really, why would you ever, ever, ever ask someone that question in the first place? I mean just save yourself the trouble of looking like an ass, it's just embarrassing for everyone, including the poor, innocent by-standers in the room who want to crawl into a hole just to get away from the situation. :) I promise you, unless you are giving birth to a child in my presence or you have personally told me that you are expecting, I will never ask you "when you are due!" Ahh, just shake your head and laugh... that's all anyone can do! Hope my fabulously blessed life made you smile! :)
* I almost forgot... on an upside, Graham actually told the gym daycare lady he had to go potty AND he went! WooHoo, at least the trip wasn't a total loss!
Kate, truly overweight people get that all the time. When I was teaching and little kids would ask it didn't bother me, and just explain, "no, I'm not pregnant, just fat". Little kids would usually ask why and I explain that I don't exercise enough and I eat too much junk food. I don't mind explaining to kids, and I've become accustomed to it enough that when an adult makes that assumption (and they do make comments like that) I answer in much the same way. They get embarrassed, but I don't care because it was them that made that mistake. Maybe if they get embarrassed enough they'll think first before making a comment like that to someone else, someone it would bother more. For me, I'd rather people perceive me as rude for not commenting on a real pregnancy than risk the chance of calling someone pregnant who isn't. When I was pregnant it got kind of old talking about it all the time anyway, so I was grateful when people didn't say a word.
ReplyDeleteAt Thanksgiving my niece asked me if I was having another baby. Granted she was only 6, but still, it's not a fun thing to address. "No, sweetie, Auntie's just fat." I figure unless I know that someone's pregnant then I should probably not even mention anything. Just in case...
ReplyDeleteI can't even imagine :( That truly sucks! Clearly I don't think the question should ever be asked, I mean what good is going to come of that conversation? You obviously don't know me very well or you'd know my preggo status and if you don't know me then why are we discussing this topic at all! I give a pass to kids as it is an honest mistake, but adults should just know better! Thanks for reading my blog though :)
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